work with me
Still shouting. Still guilty. Ready to stop?
I'm Nicola, an award-winning psychologist, an NHS clinical lead, and a mum of two who's been exactly where you are. This is where we work on it together, on your specific pattern, in your specific moments, with me alongside you.
See how we worksound familiar?
The loop you can't get out of
You shouted. Again. You saw that look on their face. Again. And now you're replaying it, in the car, in the shower, lying awake wondering if you've already done damage.
You've read the books. You follow the accounts. You know you're supposed to stay calm, take a breath, get down to their level. And then everything's already been a lot, someone is screaming about nothing, and all of it goes out the window.
You vow to do better. You mean it every time. And then the next hard moment comes and it happens again and the guilt piles on top of the guilt that was already there.
You're not checked out. You're not a bad parent. You love your kids more than anything.
But somewhere between who you want to be and who you are at the end of a long day, something keeps going wrong.
here's the thing
You can't bully yourself into a better place.
You've been trying to shame yourself into being better. Replaying it. Criticising yourself. Vowing to do better. Feeling terrible about it. And it hasn't worked. Not because you're not trying hard enough. But because that's not how change works.
What does work is understanding what's actually happening, and having the right tools for the moments that push you over the edge. That's what this is for.
ready to go deeper?
This is where we work on it together
The Shout Less Toolkit gives you the tools. This is where you use them with me alongside you, working out exactly what's happening in your specific pattern, in your specific moments, and what needs to change. You won't just leave with a better understanding of the problem. You'll leave with something specific to reach for the next time you feel the build-up starting.
- So you catch it earlier, before it tips over, before anyone says something they didn't mean.
- So you respond differently, and the moment that used to end in a blow-up ends differently instead.
- So the pattern actually shifts. And when it does, something changes in the whole house.
Your kids feel it too. The silliness comes back. The laughter. The goofiness you'd forgotten about. Connection comes back in the small moments, the ones that used to get swallowed up by the tension.
The home feels lighter. Warmer. Fuller.
two ways in
Choose your starting point
The Reset Session
One situation. One session. You bring the moment that keeps going wrong, the morning routine, the homework battle, the witching hour, and we work out exactly what's happening and what to do differently.
What's included
You'll fill in a short form when you book so I can come prepared. We spend the first part properly understanding the moment, what leads up to it, what's happening when it tips over, what you've already tried. The rest is practical, working through the right tools for the right points in the build-up and rehearsing what it looks like in real life.
What you walk away with
- A clear picture of what's driving your specific moment, not a generic explanation, yours.
- The right tool for the right point in the build-up.
- Something rehearsed in the session, not just discussed, so it's already familiar when you need it.
Break the Loop
This is for the parent who keeps hitting the same wall. Different day, different moment, same explosion. Something in the pattern keeps resetting and trying harder hasn't shifted it. If you want to understand it and change it at the root, this is where that work happens.
What's included
Eight sessions with a clear shape, but not a fixed script. Each one starts with what actually happened since the last: what you tried, what worked, what didn't, what surprised you. Because understanding why something played out differently in your real life, with your real kids, on a real Tuesday, tells us more than anything we could map out in a session. So we keep adjusting until we find what actually holds.
What you walk away with
- You'll know why. In a specific, personal way, where it came from, what keeps it running, why it shows up when it does.
- You'll catch it earlier, noticing the build-up before it tips over, until it becomes automatic.
- Something that holds. Practical, specific, tested in your actual life, not just theory.
you're not the only one
What parents say
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"I've tried so many other things to stop yelling. This is the only thing that has helped. On day one I counted 15 near-yelling moments. By the end of the week it was once or twice."
Tess
"I actually followed your advice on how best to apologise after shouting. I didn't over-explain and it was effective, it shut the situation down quickly. Thank you."
Corrine
"Yours has by far been the most beneficial account I've followed for understanding myself better."
Kirsten
not sure?
Here's how to choose
Start with the Reset Session if…
You want practical tools for a specific moment, quickly. You'll leave with a clear picture of what's driving it and something concrete to use straight away.
Choose Break the Loop if…
You want to understand the bigger picture, why you react the way you do, where it comes from, and how to change it at the root. It can start from one situation or many. The difference isn't how many problems you have. It's how far you want to go.
free
not ready yet? start here
The 60-Second
Shout Stopper
One free tool for the sixty seconds it's about to happen. No reading, no homework, nothing to work out first. It's the thing I use myself, right when it's happening, to stop the shout before it leaves my mouth. Free, and it works tonight.
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