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5 Skills to Stop Shouting at Your Kids
Five fast, evidence-based skills to stop yourself shouting at your kids, so you can catch it before it happens instead of losing it and feeling guilty after.
If you're a mum who goes from fine to furious in seconds, whether that's most days or just sometimes, and you've caught yourself thinking "what is wrong with me, why do I keep doing this", this is for you.
Real talk
You want to be the parent who doesn't shout.
You see other parents keeping their cool and you know it's possible. But right now, it isn't happening for you. Your body tips past its limit faster than your mind can catch up, and no one ever taught you what to do in that exact second.
In fact, catching that moment, the second it starts to build, before your voice has even risen, is the actual answer here. Not more willpower. Not trying harder. Just the right tool, reached for at the right second.
And if that wasn't reason enough to pay attention...
- It works in the moment you're actually in, not just on a calm afternoon when nothing's testing you
- It's built on real psychology and real evidence, not another tip passed around a Facebook group
- It doesn't ask you to become a more patient person, just to reach for the right thing at the right second
- And underneath it all, it means fewer nights lying awake replaying what happened
But you're doing everything you know how to do, and it's still happening.
Right now you might be up at 11pm, googling how to stop shouting at your kids, promising yourself tomorrow will be different, then snapping again by bedtime the next day.
- You might be trying "just breathe" in the middle of it, and watching it do nothing because you're already too far in
- You might be walking away to cool off, only for your child to follow you into the next room, so even that doesn't work
- And really wanting to be the calm one, the one who's got this, but not knowing how to get there before you've already shouted
And all this? Has probably got you feeling like you don't recognise the person who just shouted. And not becoming the mum you actually want to be, the one who enjoys them instead of counting down to bedtime.
Or even worse? Your kids remembering this version of you, and you wondering if this is just who you are now.
But it doesn't need to stay this way.
Why this is different
What if there's a way to stop the shouting before it even happens?
I'm Nicola. I'm a psychologist, and I still lost it at my own kids. At work, I could stay steady all day in some of the hardest situations you could imagine, and then come home and shout at my own children by bedtime. One evening my three-year-old stubbed her toe and muttered a swear word like it was the most ordinary thing in the world. My stomach dropped. She hadn't got that from nowhere.
Until one day that changed, the day I stopped teaching this from a distance and started using it myself, in the actual moments I could feel it building.
You're not stuck hoping one trick happens to work for you. Five fast, evidence-based skills mean there's always one that fits the moment you're actually in.
And since discovering this?
- I now catch myself before my voice rises
- I actually enjoy the evenings, instead of counting down to bedtime
- I have fewer nights lying awake replaying what happened
And the best part? I've watched that same shift happen for the mums I work with, and I believe it can happen for you too.
AND P.S. I'm so confident in this that if you don't love it, there's a full money-back guarantee. ๐ฅฐ
Imagine how it will feel...
From this, to this.
| RIGHT NOW ๐ | WITH YOUR 5 SKILLS ๐ | |
|---|---|---|
| Lying awake going over it, the shouting, replaying their face, still not knowing what you'd have done differently. | โ | Lying in bed easy, because today you handled it, and you know you can do it again tomorrow. |
| Feeling the shouting building and being powerless to stop it, like watching yourself from the outside. | โ | Feeling it building and knowing exactly what to reach for, so it never turns into shouting. |
| You never used to be like this. Before kids you didn't lose it at anyone. Now here you are, and you can't work out who this person is. | โ | The calm mum who's got it together, not losing it at her kids, actually enjoying them instead of counting down to bedtime. |
| The house tense, everyone walking on eggshells, reading your mood before they speak. | โ | The house light again, messing about with them, being silly, actually there with them instead of somewhere else in your head. |
If it sounds pretty damn good, then...
Say hello to
Stopping the shouting before it even happens.
Five short videos. Five real, evidence-based skills. A way to catch yourself before you shout, so you can stop bracing for the next hard moment and start enjoying the evenings instead.
What's inside
Here's what's inside...
I'd usually teach and rehearse these skills with you over at least two therapy sessions. The value of that is around ยฃ220.
Skill 1: STOP
The moment everything starts to build, this is what you reach for first. A four-step sequence, demonstrated so you can watch exactly how it's done, that puts a gap between the urge to shout and actually shouting.
- Watch exactly how it's done, step by step, rather than trying to piece it together yourself
- A two-minute explainer on why it works, so you're not just taking my word for it
Skill 2: The Physiological Sigh
When a normal breath won't come, this is the one that works anyway. A specific breathing pattern, demonstrated clearly so you get it right the first time you try it.
- Watch the exact pattern demonstrated, so there's no guessing whether you're doing it right
- The 2023 research behind it, briefly, so you know why it works before your mind's even caught up
Skill 3: Temperature
When breathing alone isn't cutting it, this uses something your body already knows how to do. Demonstrated so you know exactly how to use it and for how long.
- Watch the full technique demonstrated step by step, including exactly where and how to apply it
- A clear safety note, so you know straightaway if this one's right for you
Skill 4: Paced Breathing
When you've got a few seconds longer, this is how you make it properly settle, not just pause. A simple pattern, demonstrated clearly so you can follow along.
- Watch the full pattern demonstrated, so you can follow along rather than trying to remember it
- A brief note on why the exhale matters more than the inhale
Skill 5: Paired Muscle Relaxation
When the tension's still there after everything else, this is how you release it. Demonstrated muscle group by muscle group.
- Watch the full technique demonstrated step by step, so you know exactly which muscles and for how long
- A brief note on why tensing first works better than trying to relax straight away
Bonus
Plus, your quick extras
Value: ยฃ30
So the right thing is always within reach, not just something you watched once and forgot.
- A printable card with all five skills in one place, for the fridge or the car
- A lock screen image, so your skills are with you every time you pick up your phone
- A decision card for the moment you're not sure which skill to reach for
- A simple tracker to help you find your one or two go-to skills
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What mums are saying
And you don't need to just take my word for it.
From 15 near-yelling moments a day, down to one or two by the end of the week
I've tried so many other things to stop yelling, this is the only thing that has helped. On day one I counted 15 near-yelling moments. By the end of the week it was once or twice.
โ Tess
The most helpful account she's followed for understanding herself
Yours has by far been the most beneficial account I've followed for understanding myself better.
โ Kirsten
Try It And See Guarantee
And in case you were worried, this is completely risk-free. You're protected by a 7-day Try It And See Guarantee.
Why? Because I know what's inside works when you use it, and I'd rather you find that out for yourself than take my word for it.
So try it. Watch the videos, try the skills. If it's not for you, for any reason at all, email me within 7 days and I'll refund you in full. No hoops, no awkward questions.
There's genuinely nothing to lose here.
Got questions?
Here are some answers.
Under an hour to watch everything, start to finish. After that, there's no schedule to keep up with, just come back to whichever skill you need, whenever you need it.
Just a device and an internet connection. No app to download, nothing to print unless you want to.
Lifetime access. It's yours to come back to for as long as you need it.
Yes. You don't have to be losing it daily for this to help. If it happens once a week, once a fortnight, or just sometimes, and you hate it when it does, this is for you. The skills work exactly the same either way.
Probably, and here's why: "just breathe" only ever gave you one tool, and it's not built for every moment. This gives you five different tools, each suited to a different point in the moment, so if breathing alone isn't enough, there's something else to reach for instead.
No. This is skills training, the practical tools I teach in the first session with almost every client. If you're looking for deeper, ongoing support, this can be a genuinely useful first step, but it isn't a replacement for therapy.
Because this is deliberately the fast, in-the-moment piece, not a full course. You're getting exactly what you need to catch the moment before it happens, without paying for anything you don't.
You'll get instant access straight away, plus a confirmation email with everything you need. Start with the "Start here" video, then work through the five skills in whatever order suits you.
You're not. The mums who feel most hopeless about this are usually the ones who've been trying hardest with the wrong tools, which is exhausting, and easy to mistake for being broken. It isn't that. It's never having had the right approach.
Yes. You're covered by a 7-day Try It And See Guarantee. Try it, and if it's not for you, for any reason, email me within 7 days and I'll refund you in full.
Just email me, I read every message myself and I'm happy to help.
If you're still here, reading this far down, that tells me something. This matters to you. You wouldn't have read this much about it if part of you wasn't already hoping it could be different.
And it's this:
You don't want to look back in a year and realise nothing changed. Another year of the same hard mornings, the same lying awake afterwards, the same promise that tomorrow will be different followed by the same tomorrow.
These five skills are practical. They're built for real life, real exhaustion, and the moments that have been defeating you. They're specific, the right tool for the moment you're actually in. And they're kind, because they start from the truth that you are not a bad mum. You're a mum who was never handed the right tools, by someone who actually knows this inside out.
Those tools are waiting for you now. And so is the version of these next few years where you're the steady one, the fun one, the mum who messes about with them instead of bracing for the next time she loses it.
This is your invitation to start today. And if you do, I genuinely can't wait to hear that you caught yourself, right before your voice rose, and did something different instead.
nicola x
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